Meet Kate
I’m a therapist based in Reston, Virginia, and when I’m not working with clients, I’m juggling hobbies and passions that bring joy and balance to my life. I’ll admit it: I have a green thumb that’s a little less green as I attempt to keep all 150 of my houseplants alive (okay, maybe I’m exaggerating—but I definitely have more plants than I probably should). This year, I’m ambitiously trying to read 50 books, though I’ve only managed two so far—wish me luck! As a self-proclaimed night owl who can’t fall asleep before midnight, I’m also a big fan of naps to make up for my late nights.
I specialize in helping women whose lives have been shattered by traumatic birth, miscarriage, stillbirth, or infant loss. Many of the women I work with are in the immediate aftermath—still bleeding, still recovering, still hearing the silence where there should have been a heartbeat or a cry. No one prepared them for this kind of grief. Even when surrounded by people who care, nothing seems to touch the chaos happening inside.
They replay the moment over and over: the delivery room, the stillness, the look on the nurse’s face, the sudden urgency, or the words no mother should have to hear. They can’t sleep. They feel numb. They can’t stop imagining how it could have gone differently. And no matter how much time passes, it feels like they’re reliving the worst day of their lives—again and again.
EMDR isn’t about erasing memories or “moving on.” It’s about helping your brain and body process what they went through—so the images, sounds, and physical sensations no longer hijack your nervous system. It’s about making space for calm, even in the grief. It’s about remembering your baby without drowning in the moment of their loss.
In my practice, I work with women grieving babies they loved beyond words—and who are now stuck in the trauma of how it all happened. Whether it’s flashbacks, nightmares, guilt, anxiety, or just a sense that something is deeply not okay, EMDR therapy can help bring relief, without requiring you to let go of the love you still carry.
Together, We Can Work Through:
Intrusive images or flashbacks that feel just as vivid now as they did then
A heavy sense of guilt or “what if,” even when you know you did everything you could
Avoidance of hospitals, dates, rooms, or routines that bring the memories back
Emotional numbness or moments of overwhelming sorrow and dread
Trouble sleeping, feeling constantly on edge, or fearing something else will go wrong
A nervous system that feels stuck in “high alert” and won’t calm down
Whether your trauma came from an unexpected miscarriage, a traumatic delivery, a stillbirth, or a loss in the neonatal period, you deserve care that sees the full picture—grief and trauma intertwined.
Many of my clients are also working with a talk therapist for long-term support and come to me specifically for trauma reprocessing. If you already have a therapist, EMDR can complement your existing care by targeting the trauma that keeps your nervous system locked in survival mode.
You don’t have to talk through every detail. You don’t have to explain what can’t be explained. You just have to be willing to start.
If you’re ready to take the first step, I’m here to walk with you.
Kate Regnier is a trauma therapist specializing in EMDR therapy for women coping with miscarriage, stillbirth, traumatic birth, and postpartum PTSD. She helps clients process distressing memories, flashbacks, and lingering guilt—so they can begin to feel safe in their bodies, grounded in the present, and more like themselves again. Her approach is compassionate, structured, and evidence-based—offering meaningful relief without the need for long-term talk therapy. Kate provides EMDR sessions for clients in Virginia, Maryland, Washington DC, Indiana, and Michigan.
