Ditch Feeling Like a Burden, Find Peace in Your Worth
EMDR Therapy for people who feel shame when expressing themselves and are looking to find an identity outside of being the peacekeeper.
My clients struggle as you do. Despite following all the rules, being easy going, and having the best intentions, life is hard.
When they first come in, they’re burnt out from trying to keep the peace. The thought of conflict or someone being mad at them makes them physically hunch over and want to crawl out of their skin.
When they say no or cancel plans, they’re wracked with shame and guilt. They find themselves profusely apologizing to the point of annoyance, but they still don’t feel any better. To them, letting someone down means they’re a bad person.
When asked what they’d rather do or what they think, they politely reply that they’re happy to do whatever the group wants, while simultaneously screaming on the inside about how much they actually hate that restaurant, or that they’d really want to stay in for the night instead of going out. They’d rather be agreeable and compliant; otherwise they’ll ruin the fun.
Their fear of conflict and being a disappointment to others gets in the way of the life they want in so many ways. They aren’t the kind of person they want to be. They feel like they’re failing as a friend and partner. And their confidence at work is tanking.
Before they came to see me, they felt that having emotions wasn’t safe. They worried something was wrong with them because they were always looked over and never listened to. And they were pretty certain that having needs and stating them made them a burden and unlovable to others. Going with the flow in fear of being a problem is exhausting.
Like my clients, you deserve to feel safe when saying how you feel.
Saying no without feeling guilty is not out of your reach.
If you want to feel secure and confident in yourself, I’d love to help you get there.
I’m Kate
I provide EMDR Therapy for adults whose worth is tied up in what people think of them.
All sessions are held via online for individuals physically located in Maryland, Virginia, Washington, DC, Michigan, and Indiana.
Need help now and don’t want to spend months in therapy to get it? Schedule an EMDR Intensive to start changing your patterns now and find worth today.
