Perinatal Grief and Loss Counseling

Grieving After Miscarriage, Stillbirth, or Infant Loss

The grief is paralyzing. The silence is deafening. Life no longer feels recognizable.

For many of the women I work with, the heartbreak of losing a baby—whether through miscarriage, stillbirth, or shortly after birth—feels like the floor has dropped out from beneath them. The world keeps turning, but inside, everything has stopped.

It wasn’t supposed to happen this way.

One moment, there was hope and expectation. The next, there were words you’ll never forget. A heartbeat that stopped. A delivery that ended in silence. A nursery that will never be used.

Now, some days it’s hard to breathe, let alone function. Flashbacks come out of nowhere. The images. The quiet. The disbelief. It all replays in your mind in a loop. Sleep feels impossible. Conversations feel unbearable. And guilt whispers, “You should’ve done something,” even though your heart knows otherwise.

You may look like you’re holding it together—but inside, you’re just surviving. Minute by minute. Hour by hour.

What You’re Feeling Isn’t Just Grief—It’s Trauma

Most women don’t immediately recognize their experience as trauma. They just know they’re not okay.

The pain of perinatal loss—whether through miscarriage, stillbirth, or neonatal death—doesn’t fade quietly. It weaves itself into every corner of your life. Your sleep. Your body. Your relationships. Your ability to be present. Your sense of self.

You may find yourself:

Avoiding baby aisles or pregnancy announcements

Skipping conversations about motherhood

Feeling triggered by seeing newborns or hearing birth stories

Numbing out just to make it through the day

These are not just signs of grief. They are signs of trauma—and they are incredibly common after perinatal loss. You are not overreacting. You are not weak. Your nervous system is trying to protect you from unbearable pain.

And you don’t have to carry this alone.

Signs You May Be Experiencing Grief + Trauma

Flashbacks or intrusive memories

Sleeplessness or vivid nightmares

Panic or anxiety when reminded of the loss

Guilt and self-blame that won’t let up

Feeling emotionally numb or disconnected

Avoiding places, people, or reminders of your baby

Physical symptoms like fatigue, nausea, or racing heart

Feeling like you should be doing better by now—but you’re not

Whether you're seeking miscarriage support, infant loss counseling, or simply wondering why you still feel so stuck—know this: you're not broken. You're grieving. And you deserve real support.

How I Help Women After Perinatal Loss

Many women come to me weeks or months after their loss, unsure if therapy will help—but desperate for something to shift. They're not looking to forget. They just want to breathe again. To feel like themselves again. To get through a day without falling apart.

They often ask:

Will I always feel this heavy?

Will I ever stop blaming myself?

Is it possible to honor my baby and still move forward?

In our work together, I use EMDR therapy (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing)—a gentle, research-backed trauma therapy designed to help you process painful memories and reduce emotional intensity.

You won’t be asked to relive the pain over and over. You won’t be told to “move on.” Instead, we work safely and gradually to help your brain and body make sense of what happened—so you can begin to carry this grief in a way that doesn’t consume you.

Why Choose EMDR Therapy After Pregnancy or Infant Loss?

Specialized Support: I work specifically with women navigating the trauma of miscarriage, stillbirth, fetal loss, and PTSD from labor or birth trauma.

Flexible Options: Choose 90-minute in-person EMDR intensives or 50-minute virtual sessions to fit your schedule and needs.

Safe, Confidential Space: Private, one-on-one therapy that allows you to finally exhale.

Proven Results: EMDR therapy is evidence-based and designed to bring real, lasting relief after trauma.

You Don’t Have to Grieve Alone

You don’t have to keep replaying the worst day of your life. You don’t have to hold it together for everyone else. And you don’t have to figure this out on your own.

If you're looking for counseling for perinatal loss, birth trauma support, or healing from PTSD after giving birth, I’m here for you.

Let’s take the next step together:

1. Contact Kate to schedule your consultation

2. Begin working with me, Kate Regnier, an EMDR therapist who understands perinatal trauma

3. Start reprocessing your grief and feel grounded again—one session at a time

Therapy can help you carry the memory of your baby with you—without carrying all the pain. You are capable of healing. And you're not alone.

Other Services Offered with Kate Regnier, LCSW and EMDR Trauma Therapist

Are you a woman navigating the devastating aftermath of miscarriage, stillbirth, or a traumatic birth? Kate Regnier, LCSW and EMDR Therapist, specializes in helping women process perinatal loss, birth trauma, and postpartum PTSD. Through EMDR therapy, Kate supports you in easing the intensity of flashbacks, guilt, and anxiety—so you can begin to feel more grounded, safe, and connected again.

Kate offers EMDR therapy for women in Virginia, Maryland, Washington D.C., Indiana, and Michigan, and works with those experiencing pregnancy loss grief, PTSD from labor, and postpartum trauma.

To learn more about working with Kate, visit the Meet Kate page or explore helpful insights on the blog.

What EMDR Therapy for Perinatal Loss Looks Like

In our sessions, we’ll use bilateral stimulation to help your brain process what it couldn’t at the time of the trauma. If in person, you’ll hold vibrating tappers in each hand. If virtual, you’ll follow a moving dot across your screen. Both options are effective.

Each step is grounded in compassion and paced for your healing:

Step 1: Understanding Your Loss

We’ll explore what happened and how it continues to affect your daily life.

Step 2: Identifying Trauma Triggers

We’ll pinpoint the thoughts, memories, or moments that keep pulling you back into the loss.

Step 3: Building Inner Safety

You’ll learn practical tools to manage anxiety and overwhelm between sessions.

Step 4: EMDR Reprocessing

We’ll process the most painful and stuck memories using EMDR to reduce their emotional intensity.

Step 5: Finding a New Way Forward

With time, you’ll begin to reclaim peace and connection while honoring your loss in a way that feels right for you.